Menage A Q&A…the kind of thing we talk about

The Menage A Tarot happens Wednesday – won’t you join us? I’m going to learn a ton from these podcasts, and I’m hoping you’ll like it too. David makes a great point about the “malleability” of the future…this Q&A from the archives touches on the same thing a little bit. Please tune in to hear David’s insight. “Menage A Tarot” podcast premieres July 16, 2014. Please visit to listen.


Q: Are yes/no readings accurate?

A. Short as it is, this question is hard to answer. There are a lot of parts to it. There is no yes or no answer to if yes / no readins are accurate.

Let’s start with this: “Accurate” compared to what? Predicting the future? How are you supposed to do the impossible accurately?

Now lets go all James Caraville on this for a minute. He famously said “I’d rather not predict. I’d rather affect”. He was talking about elections, but that is how I feel about psychic and tarot readings. Predicting the future, even if it were 100% accurate and reliable, is the wrong thing to do. It puts chains on the heart and mind of the person getting the reading, planting a seed of one vision of the future…the psychic’s vision, not the vision of the sitter’s own heart and intention. I’d rather do something to help make a real difference in the way things go – to help make things better. You can’t do that with predictions. You can do that with choices and options.

The movie “The Matrix” gives us a perfect example: Neo accidentally breaks a flower vase right after the Oracle vagely mentioned it to him ahead of time. Even though she barely mentions it in passing, it was in terms of a 100% certain  prediction, as if it had already happened. Does this mean the oracle made and accurate prediciton? No. Like she said, “…would you have broken it at all if I hadn’t said anythig about it?” After all, he only bumped the vase after she mentioned it and he turned around looking for it.

The psychological term for this is “self-fulfilling prophecy”. What if predictions only come true when the person who was given the prediction chooses to look for them?  Does that make the prediction accurate? Does that make the persons choice a better one? No.

So what good are psychic readings at all then? That’s where the James Carville part comes in. Readings can set you to looking for vases AND help you avoid breaking things … not predicting where you will look or when the vase breaks. Readings points out choices that you might not have noticed before, like Neo hadn’t noticed the vase before the Oracle pointed it out. Readings let you know there is a vase in the room, so to speak, then it is up to you to choose whether to turn around a look behind you or take a big step forward.

The yes/no type reading seems to violate that principle, just by what it is. Yes/ No implies a definite answer, a prediction of what will or won’t actually happen. I try to always add “decision helper” to the title. I do these readings more in terms of should /shouldn’t do or better/worse option instead of will/won’t happen. All else being equal, should you do A or should you do B? Which is a better choice, A or B?

In the Yes / No reading that my mentor Joy Star teaches, all the cards together show you the general best direction to go…turn, step or stand still, look for a vase or ignore it. Then it goes on to look at the situation in a more thoughtful way. One card is a more definitive yes or no, but the others show other things to consider…like should you do A or should you do B, or neither one at all. Another way of looking at it is an suggested direction to go, reasons why that direction is maybe a good idea, and reasons why it might it might not be a good idea.

So are yes/no accurate? It depends. If you consider “accurate” the ability to help you make better choices, then yes, they are accurate. If you consider accurate being able to be predicting a specific outcome…they they are a good as guess as any – the same statistical coin toss as any random guess. At least Tarot readings are a lot more fun and entertaining than math statistics and calculating probabilities, so the cards have that going for them.

Which is why I still sometimes will do a “prediction” from the yes/no format. It’s all just for fun, knowing full well it has no more chance of coming true than anything else. These kinds of “predictions” are as profound and spiritually significant as those paper “fortune tellers” that children make and  those “magic 8 ball” toys that were popular when I was kid.

Are yes/no readings accurate? Not in the conventional sense, no. Are they fun? why yes, yes they are. Can they give you good ideas and help you affect your future rather than predict it? Absolutely.