More Matchmaking

Yesterday we talked about matching a reader to a reading style so we can both get the most out of a Tarot session.

Different readers have different styles, strengths, skill sets and preferences. It seems selfish in a way, but it is important in another. A good reader knows their own ‘zone’. We know when and how our connection to intuition is strongest. By arranging things to get in our high performance zone, we can do the best reading for you that we can do. I like to think of it in terms of sports. Any reasonably healthy individual can jog or run. Some are more naturally suited to it than others. But a elite athlete turned coach also knows just what to eat and how to train and how to help another athlete run at a world class level. Anyone can read Tarot for themselves, but some people are by nature closer to that wavelength. Some know what to do to access intuitive information for the both of you at a higher level. I don’t claim to be in the Tarot olympics, but I like think I do some solid minor league work, coaching and all.

Even within the realm of pro readers there are different resonances. A lot of readers hate doing e-mail readings. It’s my specialty and strong suit. I really enjoy working in-person. Especially when sitters ask real-time in-the-flow questions. One thing I learned from teaching martial arts – especially with kids – questions can take a class (or a reading) in some really cool, enlightening directions. I may not be as slick and articulate in-person as I am in print (the keyboard lets me knit my writer-self and psychic-self play well together.) On the other hand, specific predictions and questions that read a third party are a no-go for me (see 100% accurate predictions and a big cube of jello). See the matchmaking? The first match in the menage a Tarot tois (shoutout to the Podcast! Please listen!) is a reader matching their best skills to the kind of readings that they offer.

The second match is between reader and sitter. A reader finding their zone is about getting the sitter the best guidance. A sitter finding their best reader is part of that same process. It’s a very human, gut-feeling kind of thing. Some people we like, others we don’t. Sometimes it’s for definable reasons, sometimes not. I think of it as energy and resonance…just like the wine glasses. Two wine glasses with the same amount of water in them make the same note when you tap them. Different amounts of water make different notes which may or may not work well together. Finding someone that matches or at least harmonizes with your wavelength is important to getting a really good reading. Which begs the question of how to find the right Tarot reader for you.

It’s a sad reality that the world of psychic readings still has a shady reputation, even in this day and age. Unfortunately, some people really are, shall we say, less than ethical in how they do things. To make a good match, not only do you have to consider if a psychic is ethical, it helps to find someone that resonates with your own personality and outlook. The best way to do the latter is pure intuition.  Read their blog and books (shameless plug!). Read client reviews (keeping in mind they are probably cherry-picked for the good ones.) Talk to them for a bit when you call to make an appointment. As Maya Angelou famously said “if someone tells you who they are, believe them”. Listen to your own feelings. If you get the impulse this person is right for you – enjoy the reading! If you feel like something is off – it is. That isn’t to say they are a crook…the energy might not be a good match, that’s all. Remember, this is a Tarot reading, not a crisis hotline. It is life-guidance, not an emergency bandage. Take your time. Take your time and find the right reader and reading type for you. If that means waiting a week and half for an in-person reading, so be it. If you are comfortable with technology and want that e-mail reading now – roll with it. Simple.

The third Tarot match is connecting question to cards. Not the specific deck, but the card layout. This match is the easiest to make because it is the most adaptable. Some readers have one standard layout that is their best flow, and that is what they use almost all the time. If a sitter is a good match for that reader, and that reader is a good match with that card layout, then it is an easy thing to flex the question a little to fit with the other two parts.

Some of us have different classic layouts at our disposal. Some of us like writing card spreads, so this adaptation is not only easy but fun too. We can pick the right tool for the job, choosing the layout to fit the three-way match instead of adapting the question. Either approach works well. You can flex the question, flex the layout …or both…as the situation dictates. Since I have a variety of layouts to offer I get the question “which layout should I choose” quite a lot. Think in terms of width versus deepth, field of view versus granular detail. You can focus in depth on a narrow field of view. You might get a lot out of that one thing, but you are going to miss loads of stuff off to the sides. If the reading is broad you get lots of wide-ranging information, but might have to dig for detail later on. Here, I like the toolkit analogy. A narrow-field reading…like a one card focus on a specific question…may only give you pliers for your toolkit, but it will give you half a dozen different sizes and types of pliers. A broad-field reading…like a one card general daily meditation…might give you pliers, screwdrivers, tweezers, a hammer and some nails, but only one type of each. Both scenarios are perfectly good and useful, they just meet different sitter needs.

The bottom line in making the question to layout match is simple. Ask. Ask your question with as much or as little detail as you feel is right. The reader will adapt it to suit their reading OR they can suggest which reading layout fits your question the best. Like our Disney parking lot shuttle driver said once “if you don’t know, just ask! Open your mouth and let those good words come right on out!”. Thank you Ms. Driver, wherever you are 🙂

And with that bit of practical wisdom, we actually have the answer to the whole three-way of Tarot Matchmaking. Ask. Want to know what how a psychic does their best work? Ask. Want to know if a particular reader is right for you? Talk to them. Want to know if the question works or what layout to use? You got it. Let those good words come right out…you’ll get good words and a good reading right back.


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